July 20, 2007

Being a SAHM, if I only could…

Kittycat has finally realised her dream for being a SAHM. She'll be relocating, following her hubby and therefore will be a SAHM mum to Lucas for at least three years. I feel so happy and excited for her. Why? Because being a SAHM, WAHM or PTWM has been on my mind for the past few months.

Since I started to be a little bit more active in blog hopping, I can't help but feel so inadequate being a mum. I read with envy how SAHMs and WAHMs like Montessori Mum and Mumsgather spend so much time nurturing their children with various mind stimulating activities. And how allthingspurple plan with military precision and toil in the kitchen ensuring her little ones have nutritious and healthy food everyday. Me? I am not even doing 10% of what these super moms are doing.

Work has been extremely crazy since the beginning of the year and most days, I don't get home till at least 9pm. Luckily for me though, Yiu Yiu is such an energizer bunny and she doesn't sleep till much later. At least I still get to spend a little time with her before she goes to bed. And after that, out comes my notebook again. That's the only time I get to update my blog (which is so infrequent) and catch up on blog reading. And sometimes, I work till the wee hours in the morning trying to complete numerous proposals.

Increasingly I find myself evaluating my options to see if I could afford to quit my current job and each time I do that, I just end up feeling depressed and disappointed as there doesn't seem to be a way out. We certainly can't get by just with hubby's income, not with a house, two cars and several insurance policies to be paid every month. I don't mind taking a pay cut and work part time, say 3 days a week but in my line of work, it's not possible, at least not in Malaysia. I know some colleagues in the US who have job sharing arrangements – two persons share the same job and each work only 2-3 days a week. That really sounds like the ideal arrangement for me. If only that option is available…

I know the best time to nurture and shape a child personality is during childhood, as the Malay saying goes, "Melentur buluh biarlah dari pucuk". Once they are older and have a mind of their own, it's more difficult to steer them onto the right path. And therein lies the dilemma. Given a few more years, we can probably pay off the house and cars and I could possibly opt to become a SAHM but by then, would it be too late?

6 comments:

jazzmint said...

hmm...i'm sure you could, just gotta wait for the right time

KittyCat said...

I was exactly where you were at before this except that we have one old car paid up. I'm gonna be a SAHM for a few months only because am hoping to do some consultancy work to keep my skills sharp.

With your professional background, it's just a matter of time before you can do it too. Cheer up =)

montessorimum said...

Ha, saw my name mentioned here. I'm really not supermom. I don't spare all my day time with my kids, in fact most hours are spent in front of the PC rather than with them.

So you need not feel guilty ok. I'm only spending quantity time with them not much of quality time

A Mom's Diary said...

thanks ladies for your kind words.

jazz, awaiting with bated breath for that right time to come.

kittycat, that's cool...the ideal way to stay home, keep in touch with the outside world and contribute to the household at the same time.

montessorimum, don't say like that. i love reading about activities you do with JS and WH, and the photos of art crafts that JS do...so creative.

zara's mama said...

I would like to work part time too.. but I guess, it's not possible. :(

allthingspurple said...

Ha ha, like Elaine, i am hardly supermom. I am barely making it through everyday. It helps a lot if you think over the menu the night before though. In my case, i was a desperado cos my baby just isnt drinking milk. But that aside, fate is in your own hand. I was in your position before for the longest time ever. Go for it, girl !!!