February 26, 2009

It’s getting harder…

…to leave for business trips. I’ve been psyching Yiu Yiu last week that I’ll be away in Hong Kong for work, and that she’ll be staying home with papa. She seemed to take the news well but started acting up on Sunday night. She was reluctant to go to sleep and followed me up and down the house while I packed my luggage. She finally went to sleep at 12.30am after I was done packing and went to bed together with her.

When she woke up in the morning, I was fixing her bento and asked her to brush her teeth with papa’s help. She refused and insisted to wait for me – and I ended up having to carry her while brushing her teeth. When I asked her to step out from the bathroom as I wanted to take a quick shower, she started to cry. Papa tried to distract her by offering her some toys, which kept her occupied for a few minutes. She started crying again while knocking on the bathroom door. I quickly finished up and changed, before changing her into her uniform as well. She just clung on to me and I had to show her the waiting taxi outside from our bedroom window, and told her that mummy is late. She relented and I went downstairs first, while papa helped her keep her toys. She was sobbing when papa carried her downstairs, and kept calling out for mummy. She told hubby that she cried coz she’ll miss mummy. I gave her a hug, and she held me tightly while sobbing loudly. I also beh tahan already and started crying myself. I promised to call her every day and showered her with kisses, before finally getting into the taxi.

Hubby told me that she was still sobbing quietly in the car while on the way to school…SIGH!

7 comments:

chanelwong said...

poor girl...she miss you not only due to your trip but you know what I mean...

i hope she is ok now...

Anonymous said...

Poor thing! I can just imagine how awful the entire experience must have been for both Yiu Yiu and you.

Any way to schedule future departures while she's at school or sleeping?

If you tell her everyday you'll be going on a trip (about 4-5 days before D-day), she'll pick up on it.

Farewells are usually too much for kids to handle so when I was travelling, I avoided having Lucas see me actually leaving (many of my friends did too).

Hubby, of course, is absolutely important - he has to remind Lucas cheerily that Mummy is on an aeroplane to "work".

She'll be back in X no. of days - counting down the days on the calendar helps a lot. And remember to tell Mummy what you've been up to when she calls, ok?

Cheer up!!!

Chinneeq said...

not easy to leave our little ones behind yeah :( have a good trip and be back soon.

Anonymous said...

sorry to hear that :(

when i have a business trip scheduled, i always try to tell my twins a few days in advance to get them mentally prepared. and i always end it with the reassurance that i will be back. and the moment i get back home, i remind them how i told them that i'd be back and that i did make it back. somehow, this method works for me.

A Mom's Diary said...

Chanel - she's OK now. Sounds cheerful when I spoke to her on the phone these past few days.

Kittycat - will try to schedule future departures when she's sleeping/at school. Have been telling her the few days before I left and she seemed OK then. Guess that moment was really too hard for her.

Chinnee - it gets harder the older they are, since they have a much higher level of awareness.

Mimi - that's a good idea. Will try it out next time.

jazzmint said...

aiyo..same like mine lerr...she was screaming & crying like nobody business when I left her at MIL's house to go Vietnam that day. And after the trip she told me, I think you better not go anymore. it's enough :|.

A Mom's Diary said...

Jazz - crying and screaming? Hehe...more dramatic than mine.